Author: Manny OG
Over 90,000 women reported they were raped in the United States last year. It’s estimated another 75,000 rapes went unreported. But while rape convictions are up – a five month CBS News investigation raises questions about just how many rapists are actually being brought to justice. Read the complete article Exclusive: Rape in America: Justice Denied. But that’s just the US, what about other countries you do not hear about or people who do not come forward to report it?
Here are some facts;
- One in five women will experience rape or attempted rape during their college years and less than 5% of these rapes will be reported, according to the United States Department of Justice.
- One in four women has experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner.
- 20,102 cases of domestic violence were reported; 40% of these incidents involved children.
- 75% of the 17,928 domestic violence victims were women.
When a rapist forces a woman onto the ground, he is not planning to fight her. His intentions are that of subjugation and humiliation. Your body is yours, and no one has the right to control you—to hurt you. You do have the right to do whatever is needed to stop them from hurting you.
It’s time to get serious and learn how to defend yourself. Stop thinking about it. Stop worrying. Start doing it.
1. Learn the basic techniques of self-defense.
Attend a women’s self defense workshop or program events in your community. Stop making excuses. Just show up and do it. You could also visit our Online Video Library for constant updated self-defense videos. You’ll discover that every part of your body is potentially a weapon that you can use against your attacker;
2. Learn advanced techniques of self defense.
Join a martial arts academy in your area. You’ll benefit from the exercise, increased flexibility, meditation…and learn important self defense techniques that could save your life.
3. Use your voice.
Forget the ladylike behavior, its cute but not always life saving. This is not the time to be quiet and polite. It’s time to roar and add vocal power to your self-defense. Scream at the top your lungs. This takes courage and practice at first, but once women and girls find their inner warrior voice, they add a new weapon to their self defense arsenal…and their self confidence goes up several notches.
4. Avoid potentially dangerous situations. Listen to your gut and don’t put yourself in harms way. If this means that you risk looking like a party-pooper, so be it! Don’t get in that car; don’t go to that next party; don’t drink that drink. Be smart – stay alert and in control – stay safe. Chant the mantra “A lady knows when it is time to leave.” Do not accept free drinks or free rides from strangers, no matter how innocent they look.
5. Ask for help. Don’t be afraid to ask someone to escort you safely to your car. This includes mall security, airport security, police officers. It’s their job to keep you safe.
6. Stay together.
This is a must. Make no assumptions about your safety or the safety of others. Never drive away when another women is waling to her car. Make sure she gets in safely, the car starts and she is safely driving away. This also applies to going to the public bathroom, working at the office late at night, hiking, or other isolated places and times where violent attacks may occur.
7. Be aware.
Learn to use your peripheral vision. Consider different scenarios and how you would handle yourself. This does not mean to live in fear, but to be “on guard” and in the ready position. Make sure your hands and feet are ready to move at a moment’s notice. Don’t bog yourself down with heavy purses, packages and other items that prevent you from defending yourself when needed.
8. Always be prepared.
Always have on your person Every Day Carry (EDC) self-defense items, like blades, tazers, nail files, a firearm, pepper spray, alarms, etc. according to the laws of wherever you are. These have saved countless of people from diffent attacks, not just rape. Practice using it at any chance you get, create scenarios and imagine how you would react with your EDC at each scenario, practice makes perfect and easier to use in case of an actual attack. When you do bring it out for use, do not hold back, holding back can be perceived as weakness by the attacker. Use it and use it with full force. See more examples of EDC items that can save your life here.